Finding Happiness

The problem with happiness is that it is ‘uncertain’, ‘temporary’, ‘untimely’, ‘irregular’ and ‘unpredictable’. You don’t have it easily and even if you have it, there’s no guarantee how long it will last. Ignoring this basic truth is the cause of most of our problems. We tend to expect too much when we should not and once we are done with nothing, we think this the end of the road. What can happiness do then? 

Happiness is a state of mind, the definition of which differs from one person to the other. However, one thing most of we will agree is that happiness is hard to earn today. Reasons are simple. Life is fast-paced and time is limited. To put it differently, life is money and opportunities are limited. To meet the requirements, we work hard and then die one day, unsung and unnoticed after finding very little scope to get happy in the lifetime.  While being busy and earning money are unavoidable, we can certainly do a few things to be happy. Here are the five ways I find practical. 

•  The first thing is try to find happiness in little things, as simple as watching a cartoon or as easy as planting a tree. 

•  Focus today, or even ‘now’. Nobody knows about certain ‘tomorrow’ and thinking about it worriedly is just wasting our ‘today’.

• Laugh out loud as beautiful as you can. It is a healthy habit that keeps you mentally and physically fit

• Sleep sufficiently, not just properly. A fresh mind and fit body is less likely to be sad than a dull and stressed one.

• Start loving flowers, baby and books (the positive ones). They liven up moods, helping one think positively and brining smile to the senses. 

How do you define happiness and what are your ways of finding happiness? 

Smile it naturally!

People seldom notice old clothes if you wear a big smile - Lee Mildon

The world is populated with so many people who search big things to wear a natural smile, myself included. :( But for that we are not to blame. Life is so fast, tensed and competitive today that doing this natural exercise never gets a priority. There’s a deadline to meet at work, someone in the family is stressed out, debt collection companies are knocking the door and the utility bills are mounting up while the source of income is hitting all time low. So, what is the point in smiling? While this is a good point in defense, we can’t actually blame everything on situations. There’re thousands of reasons available for us to smile, if we take the point seriously. 

Here come a few reasons I find useful: 

• Watch a comedy flick you loved once.
• Revisit good old days in your photo album
• Club the group of happy people rather than those who are hard to know
• Call a friend whose humour and sense of wit never failed to earn you happiness
•  Listen to your favourite songs, not necessarily the romantic or sad ones
•  Play with kids and see them play
• View your diary to go back to the days when you made mistakes and achieved something

There’re many more. The point is search reasons from shortest things that can keep you happy. When it comes to smiling, it is said that women smile more than men do. But this is a debatable topic which I leave to you to answer. 

Did you know smile is of many types, some of which necessarily include ‘Most Beautiful smile’, ‘I’m in Love smile’, ‘Proud smile’, ‘I’m the Boss smile’ and etc? Will talk about such wonderful smiles types in the next post. :)